Why Its Ok To Not Be Monogamous

Author : Justin L. Clardy
Publisher : Taylor & Francis
ISBN 13 : 1000850951
Total Pages : 106 pages
Book Rating : 4.56/5 ( download)

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Download or read book Why It's OK to Not Be Monogamous written by Justin L. Clardy and published by Taylor & Francis. This book was released on 2023-03-28 with total page 106 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: The downsides of monogamy are felt by most people engaged in long-term relationships, including restrictions on self-discovery, limits on friendship, sexual boredom, and a circumscribed understanding of intimacy. Yet, a "happily ever after" monogamy is assumed to be the ideal form of romantic love in many modern societies: a relationship that is morally ideal and will bring the most happiness to its two partners. In Why It’s OK to Not Be Monogamous, Justin L. Clardy deeply questions these assumptions. He rejects the claim that non-monogamy among honest, informed and consenting adults is morally impermissible. He shows instead how polyamorous relationships can actually be exemplars of moral virtue. The book discusses how social and political forces sustain and reward monogamous relationships. The book defines non-monogamy as a privative concept; a negation of monogamy. Looking at its prevalence in the United States, the book explains how common criticisms of non-monogamy come up short. Clardy argues, as some researchers have recently shown—monogamy relies on continually demonizing non-monogamy to sustain its moral status. Finally, the book concludes with a focus on equality, asking what justice for polyamorous individuals might look like.

Author : Jessica Fern
Publisher : Thorntree Press LLC
ISBN 13 : 1944934995
Total Pages : 157 pages
Book Rating : 4.96/5 ( download)

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Download or read book Polysecure written by Jessica Fern and published by Thorntree Press LLC. This book was released on 2020-10-23 with total page 157 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Attachment theory has entered the mainstream, but most discussions focus on how we can cultivate secure monogamous relationships. What if, like many people, you're striving for secure, happy attachments with more than one partner? Polyamorous psychotherapist Jessica Fern breaks new ground by extending attachment theory into the realm of consensual nonmonogamy. Using her nested model of attachment and trauma, she expands our understanding of how emotional experiences can influence our relationships. Then, she sets out six specific strategies to help you move toward secure attachments in your multiple relationships. Polysecure is both a trailblazing theoretical treatise and a practical guide.

Author : Franklin Veaux
Publisher : Thorntree Press, LLC
ISBN 13 : 0991399722
Total Pages : 368 pages
Book Rating : 4.27/5 ( download)

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Download or read book More Than Two written by Franklin Veaux and published by Thorntree Press, LLC. This book was released on 2014-09-02 with total page 368 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Can you love more than one person? Have multiple romantic partners, without jealousy or cheating? Absolutely! Polyamorous people have been paving the way, through trial and painful error. Now there's the new book More Than Two: A practical guide to ethical polyamory to help you find your own way.

Author : Eric Anderson
Publisher : Oxford University Press
ISBN 13 : 0199943907
Total Pages : 256 pages
Book Rating : 4.06/5 ( download)

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Download or read book The Monogamy Gap written by Eric Anderson and published by Oxford University Press. This book was released on 2012-03-21 with total page 256 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Whether straight or gay, most men start their relationships desiring monogamy. This is rooted in the pervasive notion that monogamy exists as a sign of true love. Yet despite this deeply held cultural ideal, cheating remains rampant. In this accessible book, Eric Anderson investigates why 78% of men he interviewed have cheated despite their desire not to. Combining 120 interviews with research from the fields of sociology, biology, and psychology, Anderson identifies cheating as a product of wanting emotional passion for one's partner, along with a steadily growing desire for emotionally-detached recreational sex with others. Anderson coins the term "the monogamy gap" to describe this phenomenon. Anderson suggests that monogamy is an irrational ideal because it fails to fulfil a lifetime of sexual desires. Cheating therefore becomes the rational response to an irrational situation. The Monogamy Gap draws on a range of concepts, theories, and disciplines to highlight the biological compulsion of our sexual urges, the social construction of the monogamous ideal, and the devastating chasm that lies between them. Whether single or married, monogamous or open, straight or gay, readers will find The Monogamy Gap to be an enlightening, intellectually compelling, and provocative book.

Author : William Tucker
Publisher : Simon and Schuster
ISBN 13 : 1621572196
Total Pages : 256 pages
Book Rating : 4.90/5 ( download)

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Download or read book Marriage and Civilization written by William Tucker and published by Simon and Schuster. This book was released on 2014-02-03 with total page 256 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: In his stunning new book, Marriage and Civilization, author William Tucker looks at the evidence from biology, evolution, anthropology, history, and culture to come to a remarkable conclusion: it was the monogamous pairing of male and female - unusual among mammals - that led to human evolution. Moreover, it is monogamous marriage that has shaped Western Civilization, giving us our sense of justice, undergirded Western democracy, and is the greatest institution we have for perpetuating human freedom and happiness. Yet marriage is now under threat - and perhaps not in ways that people suspect. We could actually see the de facto abolition of marriage, with the state taking many of the responsibilities formerly assumed by the nuclear family. Among Tucker's many eye-opening observations: How primitive polygamy was a retrogression from the original monogamous structure of the human family Why monogamy was essential to the development of ancient Greek democracy Why it was the Catholic Church, not the Bible or Christianity in general, that was the great defender of monogamous marriage in Western Civilization Why polygamous societies - from primitive farming communities, to the Mongols, to the Muslim world, to the early Mormons - are internally violent and have bloody borders Why same-sex marriage - utterly irrelevant, in evolutionary terms - is a distraction from the real marriage debate we should be having The prospects for monogamous marriage - and the dangers if it collapses Marriage and Civilization might be the most important, provocative, and talked-about book of the year.

Author : Rachel Krantz
Publisher : Hachette UK
ISBN 13 : 1913183335
Total Pages : 304 pages
Book Rating : 4.32/5 ( download)

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Download or read book OPEN written by Rachel Krantz and published by Hachette UK. This book was released on 2022-01-25 with total page 304 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: ***** 'A starkly naked story of a young woman's adventure of self-discovery, told with a striking lack of shame or apology. Highly recommended.' - Dr. Christopher Ryan, author of Sex At Dawn 'Smart, original, ambitious, and deeply absorbing memoir... She succeeds by bringing us deftly and irresistibly into her most intimate pains and joys, stretching our understanding of what commitment and autonomy mean.' - Dr. Wednesday Martin, author of Untrue & Primates of Park Avenue 'A perfect guide to our new world, the only problem I had picking up this book was putting it back down. Open compels, entertains, and may ultimately transform its readers.' - Dr. Terry Real, internationally recognised Family Therapist, author, and founder of the Relational Life Institute 'A sexy, messy, necessary look at polyamory' - Advocate When Rachel Krantz met and fell for Adam, he told her that he was looking for a committed partnership - just one that did not include exclusivity. Excited but a little trepidatious, Rachel set out to see whether love and a serious relationship can coexist beyond the familiar borders of monogamy. This is her open and honest true story. Now, in her debut memoir, she chronicles her dive into non-monogamy. With fly-on-the-wall detail and extraordinary perceptiveness, OPEN takes us inside Brooklyn parties and into the wider swinger and polyamory community. Armed with her journalistic instincts, detailed journal entries and interviews with experts and therapists, Krantz also breaks new ground in confronting the unique ways tacit abuse and gaslighting can manifest when things get so complex. Unflinching and brazen, OPEN asks what liberation really looks like, and whether the pleasure really is worth the pain.

Author : Susan Pease Gadoua
Publisher : Seal Press
ISBN 13 : 158005546X
Total Pages : 241 pages
Book Rating : 4.68/5 ( download)

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Download or read book The New I Do written by Susan Pease Gadoua and published by Seal Press. This book was released on 2014-09-23 with total page 241 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: If half of all cars bought in America each year broke down, there would be a national uproar. But when people suggest that maybe every single marriage doesn't look like the next and isn't meant to last until death, there's nothing but a rash of proposed laws trying to force it to do just that. In The New I Do, therapist Susan Pease Gadoua and journalist Vicki Larson take a groundbreaking look at the modern shape of marriage to help readers open their minds to marrying more consciously and creatively. Offering actual models of less-traditional marriages, including everything from a parenting marriage (intended for the sake of raising and nurturing children) to a comfort or safety marriage (where people marry for financial security or companionship), the book covers unique options for couples interested in forging their own paths. With advice to help listeners decide what works for them, The New I Doacts as a guide to thinking outside the marital box and the framework for a new debate on marriage in the 21st century.

Author : Amy Gahran
Publisher :
ISBN 13 : 9780998647012
Total Pages : pages
Book Rating : 4.12/5 ( download)

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Download or read book Stepping Off the Relationship Escalator written by Amy Gahran and published by . This book was released on 2017-02-03 with total page pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Love is not one-size-fits-all, yet often people assume that healthy, serious relationships all must follow the same basic path. The -Relationship Escalator- is society's bundle of customs for intimate relationships: monogamy, living together, marriage and more, ideally until death do you part. Beyond this, it might not be obvious what your options are. This book will help you: - Discover less common relationship options that might suit you. - Understand why and how people have unconventional relationships. - Empower you to negotiate about how your relationships work. - Overcome the fear that loving differently means you're doing it wrong. - Make the world a friendlier, safer place for more paths to love. Featuring real stories and insights from hundreds of people, -Stepping Off the Relationship Escalator- explores consensual nonmonogamy, love without living together, deep connections that pause and resume, and much more. The first in a series of research-based books, this introduction to relationship diversity is both accessible and surprising. LEARN MORE OR ORDER SIGNED COPIES: OffEscalator.com

Author : Kathy Labriola
Publisher : SCB Distributors
ISBN 13 : 0937609641
Total Pages : 200 pages
Book Rating : 4.44/5 ( download)

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Download or read book The Jealousy Workbook written by Kathy Labriola and published by SCB Distributors. This book was released on 2013-09-13 with total page 200 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: From the initial stages of trying to agree who can do what with whom, through advanced issues such as coping with logistics and seeking compersion, every relationship sooner or later confronts jealousy – and some relationships do not survive the confrontation. Between these covers you will find forty-two exercises with supporting text, developed by a professional relationship counselor and refined by hundreds of clients trying to find their own paths through jealousy. They range from basic (Exercise Two, Clarify Your Relationship Orientation) through challenging (Exercise Thirty-Four, Imagine Looking Through Their Eyes and Being In Their Shoes). All can be done solo, with a partner, or under the supervision of a helping professional, and all can be done before a problem emerges or in the throes of a jealousy crisis. Along the way, you will find solutions to the issues that bedevil even the most happily open relationships.

Author : Elisabeth Sheff
Publisher : Rowman & Littlefield Publishers
ISBN 13 : 9781442253100
Total Pages : 0 pages
Book Rating : 4.0X/5 ( download)

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Download or read book The Polyamorists Next Door written by Elisabeth Sheff and published by Rowman & Littlefield Publishers. This book was released on 2015 with total page 0 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: This book introduces polyamorous families and explains how they come to be, manage the ins and outs of daily family life, and cope with the challenges they face both within their families and from society at large. Sheff investigates the polyamorous household and reveals its a...